An anonymous commenter has summed up much for us here. Thanks
It looks like Prop 8 is gonna win, but let’s try not to despair. This battle may be lost, but I strongly believe that the seeds of ultimate victory have already been sown. They are just gonna need time to sprout. A change is gonna come. It’s just gonna take some more time.
In America, there seems to be a pecking order: First white heterosexual males, then black males, then women, then homosexuals.
But yesterday, with Obama, we climbed another rung. And women shouldn’t be far behind (thanks to folks like Hillary and yes…even Sarah P). And gays will follow. I’m sure of it. Even the percentages for Prop 8 yesterday were much more favorable than they were 10 years ago in California, as I understand it. The change is coming.
Waiting is going to be hard — and unconditional love for the church and its conservative members is going to be even harder (for some of us). But we must try to understand. As an example, 14 years ago I was a Rush Limbaugh conservative, and openly anti-gay. And it wasn’t until about 3 years ago that I really started to “get it”. What changed it for me was getting to know a few gay people personally. That changed everything.
But those of us who once had the blinders on MUST try to have patience and compassion for those who are still blind to the issues. We, of all people, should be empathetic with them — since we were just like them only a few years back.
They are just doing what they think and feel is right. They are scared of change. They are supporting and defending the church they love. That’s all. Surely we can understand their mindset — because most of us had that exact mindset just a few years back. And I think most of us will acknowledge that once the church caves on this issue — the church will never be the same…and will likely pay a very large price for modernization (as many churches have). Still…the change will come.
The more gays that come out, the more society and church members and GAs will get to know and love gay people — the quicker the opposition will disintegrate. It’s just gonna take time for the ice to melt.
But we probably won’t win with anger. I truly believe that anger will only prolong the struggle. That’s how humans work. What you fight, you strengthen. And we probably won’t win by quitting — either the church, or the struggle. I believe that patience and love will ultimately rule the day. For me, the way Obama ran his campaign was a great example of patience, love, and very savvy “battle picking”.
But you are among the early marchers. The visionaries. The activists. Someday, folks will look back and shake their heads at what we did as a society in 2008.
But you will be able to hold your heads high. Just like Stirling McMurrin. Just like Lowell Bennion. Just like Rabbi Theodore Heschel. And MLK. And Ellen. And thousands of other early civil rights pioneers. You stood up for love. You stood up for compassion. You stood up for marriage. You fought for justice.
You are the biggest heroes of all, in my view. I stand in humble awe at your courage and willingness to face the pain of public opposition.
So please take a moment to pat yourselves on the back. Each of you stood up early, when it wasn’t popular — to support civil rights. And you’ll always be able to tell your children and your grandchildren that you did so.
This was our Selma. And we marched.